15 Tips for your journey through Grief
“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.” — Leo Tolstoy
Navigating grief is one of life’s greatest challenges. Whether a loved one or special pet has died, you’ve lost your job, moved away from family, become an empty-nester, or experienced another significant loss, you are likely feeling the emotional and physical pain of grief. You may experience unexpected emotions or a disruption in your physical health. These are normal reactions to grief.
Although there is no “right” way to grieve, and there is no handbook to help you know what to expect, there are many things you can do to help ease the journey.
- Don’t let others tell you how you should feel. Your grief is just that – yours. No one else knows the depth of your sadness – not even someone else who has experienced the same loss you have. No one can tell you when it’s time to move on or to get over it. Go ahead and feel whatever you feel without judgement or embarrassment. It’s ok to laugh, to cry, to scream, and to be angry.
- Constantly remember your purpose. Why are you striving toward that goal or dream in the first place? What is the big, audacious purpose that motivated you to embark on the journey? More time with your family? More money? Getting the dream job? To keep your motivation high, you must constantly keep your purpose in front of you.
- Celebrate the small wins. It’s important to keep the big picture in front of you, but it’s also crucial to celebrate the small wins. Remember, you climb a ladder one rung at a time. You’re reaching your goal one step at a time. Celebrating the small wins will allow you to see the progress you’re making and increase your motivation levels.
- Act first, feel later. One of the best ways to get your motivational juices flowing is to simply take action. If your goal is to read fifty books in one year, sit down and read a book for five minutes. If your goal is to lose 50 pounds, go for a 10-minute walk. Once you take the first step, you’ll feel motivated to keep going.
- Do visualization exercises. By visualizing your goal, you bring the future into the present. As you visualize your dream job and all the benefits it will bring, you’ll feel your present motivation skyrocketing. As you think about what it will be like to double your income, the obstacles you’re facing will melt into the background.
- Break your big goal into small goals. Depending on your ability to focus, it might be helpful to break your big goal into segments that last anywhere from one to 12 weeks. This way your brain can experience success and logically see a positive long-term outcome. You’ll procrastinate if the path looks too challenging.
- Repeat affirmations daily. Affirmations help you believe that you’re going to achieve your goal. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, burned out, or low on motivation, saying things like, “I AM on my way to a healthy body,” can help you keep going.
- Surround yourself with people who motivate you. One of the most effective ways to boost your motivation is to surround yourself with other people who are motivated. If you’re building a business, spend time with other passionate entrepreneurs. If you’re working toward a goal weight, have a workout accountability partner. You need encouragement and support as you pursue your goals.
These ideas may be simple, but they are profound. Put these to work in your own life and watch the success appear before you.
Wishing you all the best my friends!
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All the best!!
Lee n’ Shadow